Love, Me

In searing dispatches, Love, Me is a timely affirmation for Black women in a world that has undervalued them for centuries. Sunny Hostin praises it as “thee Black woman’s story for this era. It is both political and personal. It is both timely and, quite frankly, overdue.”

Will we ever get back the love we give? That’s what millions of Black women are asking. Whether it’s the men in our lives, our experiences in our workplaces, or America itself, the country we built, we are fighting for the consideration, kindness, and respect we are due.

Black women are being silenced. Our history is being whitewashed and our contribution downplayed. Efforts persist to reduce our existence entirely. We are fighting for love, our lives, and livelihoods while a burning America continues to stand on our shoulders as it has throughout time.

In Love, Me, Cross brings to life the souls of Black women today. In the face of a failing democracy, dwindling opportunity, and elusive love, she tells the story of how we, women of accomplishment and endurance, relentlessly use our humanity to preserve ourselves, our culture, and civilization. Bold and provocative, Cross invites Black women to go from hopeless to hopeful as we fight to achieve our dreams, secure the love we deserve, and preserve the home we built. She argues that we must repair our personhood and society, and that starts with giving ourselves something to believe in.

Cross takes us on an intimate journey through the internal and external battles we face, illuminating community and critiquing the politics of being a Black woman today. With a blend of humor, pathos, and hard-hitting cultural analysis, Cross tackles issues like race, relationships, sex, family, economics, health, labor, and love. By bringing Black women to the forefront, she honors not just her story, but our story.

• "This book is thee Black woman’s story for this era. This book is both unique and familiar. It is both political and personal. It is both timely and, quite frankly, overdue. Tiffany goes deep and shifts focus to our humanity."
  Sunny Hostin, Co-Host of The View
• "This story comes at the right time and is told by the right person. Tiffany is unfiltered. This book offers keen and intimate insight into the Black woman experience that I found captivating."
  Michael Harriot, New York Times bestselling author of Black AF History
• "Every Saturday we tuned in to Tiffany because she helped us contextualize what was happening in our turbulent nation, leaving us always smarter and more informed. In these uncertain times, we need her voice, her wit, her analysis, her compassion and her heart more than ever and I cannot wait to see her new book in the world."
   
  Nikole Hanna-Jones, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 1619 Project
• "Tiffany’s way of speaking truth when it comes to this country and our politics has always resonated with audiences. Here she peels back yet another layer and blends our personhood with her raw reveal of our emotional journey. I can’t wait for women everywhere to read this book and feel just as seen as I did!"
   
  Joy-Ann Reid, Host of The Joy Reid Show
• "Love, Me is a reckoning written in the key of Black women’s truth. This book gathers our histories, our heartbreaks, and our armor, refusing the myth that our endurance is quiet suffering. It insists that our brilliance is blueprint, our care is currency, and our solidarity is survival. Black women are not bystanders in this moment; we are the architects of what’s next."
   
  Tarana Burke, New York Times bestselling author of Unbound and founder of the #MeToo movement
• "Few people have the courage to speak honestly and face the consequences. Tiffany has always been willing to do just that. Love, Me is her unplugged!"
   
  Jelani Cobb, The New Yorker
• "Tiffany’s own story is the beating heart of a book that deftly captures the reality of this moment in America, particularly for Black women."
  
   
  Vann Newkirk, The Atlantic
• "We have made ourselves in service of country, career, and love—only to have our devotion mistaken for debt, our giving met without reciprocity. Tiffany Cross says the quiet parts out loud. She sends a message loud and clear: no longer will Black women be sacrificial lambs for a corrupted system that extracts our gifts, exploits our beauty, and tramples on our hearts. This book is a gift—not of more giving, but of receiving. A pathway to embrace our safe space, generate sisterhood, and cultivate unconditional love of self."
  LaTosha Brown, founder of Black Voters Matter
• "The drama of the real-life Being Mary Jane with facts and historical data. This is a raw tour of Black women’s professional and personal journey. That’s the Cross Effect. Connecting how work, love, and country impacts our lives is timely and revealing."
   
  Will Packer, Film Producer
• "Love, Me taps into Black women’s boundless love, justified rage, and serves as a reminder that this ongoing battle for survival is complex and precarious. Using raw vulnerability, Tiffany Cross brilliantly writes the things we say in our groups chats, and also the things that hurt Black women most deeply.  Love, Me isn’t just a love letter to Black women, but a blueprint that acknowledges our triumphs and our scars."
  Jemele Hill, author of Uphill